Wednesday, 26 February 2014


A common excuse for self-preservation through disobedience is offence. There is a false sense of self-preservation in harbouring an offence. It keeps you from seeing your own character flaws because the blame is deferred to another. 

You never have to face your role, your immaturity, or your sin because you see only the faults of the offender. The offended person will avoid the source of the offence and eventually flee, becoming a spiritual vagabond.

Offended people believe everyone is out to get them. With this attitude it is difficult for them to see areas in their own lives that need change. They isolate themselves and conduct themselves in such a manner that invites abuse.

A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgement. Proverbs 18:1

God never created us to live separately and independently of each other. He likes it when His children are cared for, and nurture each other. He is frustrated when we sulk and feel sorry for ourselves, making everyone else responsible for our happiness! 

By Enyonam Gbekle. All rights reserved 2014